I grew up with lots of well- and bad-meaning adults comparing me (especially my weaknesses) to my friends, cousins etc. In fact I still get that shit today. I refused to let it just make me feel bad & forced myself to view comparisons to be positive or learning events instead. Here's what I did.

TLDR: I found that comparing is a "normal thing" that we do, but it's usually negative if there's nothing we can do about these comparisons. I changed the way I compare, to make comparisons useful and good evenNigel, why you so fat compared to your friends and cousins?Lol, that was one of the actual comparison that I personally received. Other specific quips I can remember :why cant you be as smart as your friend / cousin?why cant you be as good / obedient as so-and-so?Work-wise, I've come across these nuggets from clowns bosseswhy is employee B faster than you?why must you be so difficult?why cant you just follow my grand (but stupid ideas) like employee C?If I had a fucking dollar each time I hear these...I'd be rich by now.It really hurt when I was younger and less experienced, because it just plain sucked at times to hear what I suck at....but I refused to let myself be sad or upset by others who compare me to their favorite employees, nieces, friends etc - whatever, fuck you Karen.In my pain, I decided to find a way to make comparisons "useful", so I look for opportunities to learn instead. Look, it'd still sting and suck, but at least I know how that I CAN improve and work on it (unless its my face or looks, then I cant do much lol)Instead of making it just painful comparisons like "I'm not enough", I turn it around to ask myself: "what can I learn from this person / comparison?"Making it a learning event makes it actionable and useful, and that both carries me through the pain but more importantly, it allows me to improve myself.Example: if person A is really good with their jump shots, I will find out from them directly or by observing, how they did it.Was it because they got a mentor?Was it because they practiced regularly?What am I missing?What can I learn?Here's a video with practical advice and more examples of good / useful comparisons if you enjoyed thisAbout me: I’m an average entrepreneur, dad and husband who is fascinated with marketing, leadership, entrepreneurship and creating a life and stuff that matters. These videos and posts are a fun project for myself where I share about what I'm thinking about or cool stuff I discover. see hubwealthy.com/wealthy